The Living Series Part II

The Living Series: Living intentionally, living spiritually, living intuitively, living passionately.

Living with Spirituality / Living Spiritually

When reading the term “spirituality” I believe most associate this term with or think “religion”, going to church, praying, worshiping God. And this blog post will not have much to say about religion although I have studied and learned much from most of the world’s religions.

When I speak of spirituality I am addressing not only formal matters but informal ones as well.

For the sake of background on how I have learned to live pretty much every day with and in a spiritual mindset, I would like to first point out that I grew up a Christian preacher’s daughter, attending church 3 to 5 times a week every week until I was 17. Most of the time I loved it and had a great time because daddy was doing the preaching and I loved hearing his voice, watching him draw on the chalkboard and, my favorite, listening to him sing. I was a daddy’s girl through and through and, as soon as I could walk, I followed him up to the pulpit one Sunday morning (not having anything to say but just wanting to be close to him)😊 although I am more like my mother in many ways.

The Bible says that our bodies are temples and this makes sense if you believe that the body houses the soul/spirit – making it a sort of shrine to that part of God that resides within us each of us – which many believe is located in within the heart.

Spirituality can be defined in so many ways. Webster defines it as:

1.     Something that ecclesiastical law belongs to the church or to a cleric as such;

2.     Clergy

3.     Sensitivity to or attachment to religious values; and

4.     The quality or state of being spiritual.

So, spirituality must be considered having to do with adherence to religion but my favorite is the last definition: The quality or state of being spiritual. Then the question is, “If you’re being spiritual and it’s not in adherence to any religion, are you and can you actually be living spiritually?”

For me the answer is a very loud resounding YES! It is living every second of every moment of my waking day in realization and thankfulness of all the blessings I am granted regardless of what is going on outside of me. When you are able to align yourself with Source/God energy by aligning your ego (physical) with that of your inner spirit/soul, then it becomes easily recognizable that each moment in life is and can be a blessing when seen through the eyes of spirit. To me, this is living spiritually, thankfully, lovingly, peacefully, blissfully aware of my connection to that which created all that ever was, all that is, all that ever will be, and the creator within me.

Although ashrams, cathedrals, churches, mosques, synagogues, temples and their liturgy can be beautiful and uplifting to the soul/spirit, I personally don’t find it necessary to the nourishment of my soul. One can find ways every day on their own to nourish their soul without having to be guided or told what to do by another. Who knows better how to nourish your soul other than yourself and the Creator?

When we begin to live intentionally, and continue to live intentionally, we get better at being clear about the thoughts we want to think (and even controlling the thoughts we think) knowing that those thoughts will eventually manifest in our lives.

Most people do not consciously think about spirituality all day long but, as the divine sanctuary that houses our bodies and minds, it’s a wonderful blessing and the best part of being human if one can clearly focus on thoughts about things that bring joy, hope, love, kindness, the beauty and glory of nature, and all things that are good in life. In doing so and intentionally controlling your thoughts then each moment can become a spiritual moment.

Desiring, asking for what we want, thoughtful contemplation of that which is desired, trusting and having faith (better yet, KNOWING) that it will be given unto us is our birthright. If we align our thoughts (and energetic vibration that we give out to the Universe) with our spirit self instead of allowing the ego to control all thoughts, emotions, words and actions, this, in my life, is living spiritually.

My favorite thought of any day every day is “My Father is the creator and owner of everything that I behold and the most powerful source and force of good in this World. What on Earth do I have to fear?”

May we all learn to live with intention and with spirituality!

In honor of spirituality, the Sacred Spirituality candle was created by Candle Charms. Available in two sizes of pillar candles and two sizes of jar candles at or at



The Living Series

The Living Series: Living intentionally, living spiritually, living intuitively, living passionately.

One of the best things one can do for one’ self is to live intentionally. Intentional living means deciding what you want for your life and how you want your life to look like and then intentionally creating that environment manifested.

In this wonderful and near perfect leading-edge environment that we live in, there are many tools which may aid us in these intentional endeavors.

Of course the most important, most powerful, tool any of us have toward manifesting any intentional endeavor is our mind. We choose not to live by default, but to take responsibility for the choices we make, the thoughts we think, the actions we take, the words we write and say, and live with a grid of intentional wants and desires, hopes and dreams, allowing it to fill-in, all in divine time. We live in hope, faith, trust and knowing that the life we choose to have we CAN have and someday WILL have as evidenced by all that we see around us.

My second favorite tool in living intentionally is meditation. One could expound for pages of books for years, decades, and centuries on the wonders and effects of the power of meditation. Meditation is not only self-care, self-love, and relaxation but, most importantly, it is a means of connecting with who you really are, your spirit/soul higher self.

However, some people find meditation challenging and even difficult. So my third favorite tool for intentional living is an aid to meditation – the intentional line of candles made by Candle charms.

Candles are not only romantic, shed light with flickering flames pleasing to the eyes, but when made with a specific intention with specific ingredients combined for a specific intention, and when focused on and burned with a specific intention, can become a powerful tool for meditation and manifestation.

Candle Charms, which are available for sale at are made with fragrances that are chosen and mixed for their energetic properties. Many may question how that is possible. The fragrance oils used in Candle Charms contain the highest quality oils on the market with the highest concentration of essential oils contained therein on the market. Every plant, herb, flower, tree has its own energy so the fragrances are mixed with the intention of combining the energies of nature’s flowers and plants that correspond and align with the intention of the candle to be created. The magic of color is added along with a sprinkle of quartz crystal to synthesize and ignite the energies. And voila!, Candle Magic.

Regardless of the various tools that people may use to live their lives intentionally and purposefully, one thing is sure – the world needs more people to decide to live intentionally.

Have a blessed day!Love




My favorite word of any language (so far)

Ahimsa (Sanskrit: अहिंसा; IAST: ahisā, Pāli: avihisā) is a term meaning “not to injure or harm”. The word is derived from the Sanskrit root “his” meaning to hit or strike; “isā” meaning to cause injury or harm.

A-hisā is the opposite of this, meaning to cause no injury, do no harm. “And it harm none, do what ye will” reads the Wicca Reed.

Lovely is the thought of ahimsa, nonviolence, no harm and only peace that pounds throughout the hearts of men. Unfortunately, in this Kali-Yuga era of existence, violence seems not only inevitable, but guaranteed, to show up in our lives from people and places we would not expect.

In my generation we were taught that war equaled violence. But violence today shows up über all – it’s not just in the form of killing or war.

There are many avenues of violence – not just physical on the street – but ways of words and emotional drives that can land us crashed and at a dead end. How many times does violence beat its way into our lives through text messages, e-mails, phone messages and phone calls?

What is so astonishing to me is the realization that I have not only chosen my own path with such difficult people, but I have also agreed to endure the suffering that’s required for me to learn the lessons I must learn from these difficult relationships. It’s just so heart wrenching and questionable that it even sucks to write about it.

So….what is it that we must learn in order for the violence to stop? Well, I am really working on this and not sure that I have the answers but I have written a poem entitled “Teach Me to Whisper” because I know that I, too, am also guilty of spreading my own version of emotional and verbal violence.

I believe that non-violence begins with learning to be kind to, to respect, and to love one’s self. It’s a foreign concept to many but the following are some suggestions just to get started:

Begin with being nice to yourself (whatever this means to you). For me it has become relying on my keystone habits (enough sleep, meditation, yoga, exercise, eating healthy and overall balance of responsibilities in my life (those I want and those I have).

It is also important that our mind, body and spirit be aligned (like a triangle). The body is the best place to start because when you can bring your body into submission to your own will (that which will best serve you), it gets stronger and healthier. And so yoga and exercise and meditation become your allies. They assist in helping you achieve your goals because what keeps you focused has value, what burns fat after age 50 has value, and that which calms the mind in blessed reassurance of victory is priceless. Really, what would you be willing to pay for the peace which passes all understanding?

Anyway, I intended a very different post. But I guess I didn’t feel that ranting about a cell phone being used to torture and terrorize would feel very inspiring.

PLEASE, just be careful what you allow your eyes to see, what talk or music you allow your ears to hear, what food, drink or other you feed into your mouth, be careful with the smells your nose must devour, and what you allow your skin to touch. Because what we allow into our hearts, our minds, and our bodies influence who we are and who we will become.

In the Beginning…

I began making candles with my mother and sister in Orlando, FL in the early ’70s. My mother, not only a preacher’s wife and housewife, but also part Cherokee, part Jew, part angel and part psychic, taught my sister and I the Native American tradition of honoring kindred spirits and how to work with Mother Earth. Mom is gifted at sewing and making crafts and seemed to always be making something. One warm Fall day, my sister and I watched as she showed us how to make a totem pole. Through color and symbols it seemed to emanate its own powers. Unable to resist the stirring spirit within, I lifted it high into the southeasterly winds and said a quiet prayer. On that day long ago spent creating something beautiful out of almost nothing, I had no idea what the world would have in store for me, or what I may present to the world, but I believe this was the moment that charted the course that began me on a long and often rocky path leading to the creation of my passion and gift to the world, “Candle Charms”.

That same year my sister and I received a joint Christmas gift from our mother.  It was a candle making kit that came with 2 plastic molds, paraffin wax, dye and some paint.  My sister chose to make an orange mushroom and I got to make a green frog. She came so perfectly out of the mold that I named her “Peace” and painted her eyes white with long wispy eyelashes and matching toes :).  That was the first candle I ever made.  I was 9 years old.

Today, in the 21st century, I use natural palm wax (grown from a sustainable source that does not threaten the ecosystem) to make hand-poured pillar candles that contain the highest quality fragrance oils (which include the highest concentration of essential oils available on the market, which = less chemicals), and 100% cotton wick. The fragrances are mixed by myself with the intention of combining the energies of Mother Earth to correspond and align with the intention of the candle being created, I then add in the magic of color and herbs and throw in a dash of the oldest magic itself, quartz crystal, to synthesize and ignite the energies… and VOILA:  A Candle Charm.

Candle Charms are made out of my home in Woodbridge, VA.  The following lines constitute the collection:  SPIRITUAL & DEVOTIONAL CANDLES (Celtic, Christian, Eastern, Egyptian, Greek and Pagan); ANIMAL SPIRIT GUIDE CANDLES (including mythological); INTENTION CANDLES; and SPECIAL ORDER CANDLES (birthday, wedding, any occasion).

So you may be wondering what religion is behind Candle Charms?  Many may think I just got confused and was unable to decide.  There is no easy answer to this question.  I was raised in a Christian home and will always adhere to the tenets of Christianity but  as a mystic/spiritualist (one of the most ancient of all belief systems), I have been led down many spiritual paths and have learned and gained much from all of them.  I honor and embrace many forms of religion but do not belong to any of them.  It is my belief that each of us should find our own path back to Heaven.  My path is not limited by any one religion but is a path that seeks to honor Divinity, Nature, and the Spirit within.  Candle Charms is simply an expression of all I have learned.  By blending ancient spiritual teachings, combining the magic of nature, and infusing the actual creation of each candle with intentions of love, blessings and healing, I trust that these wonderful, beautiful Candle Charms may bless all who choose to burn them.

Wishing you all many blessings.